I have to remember that this small change is part of a bigger plan — one I don’t have a full grasp on yet.
Shutting ourselves off out of anger or frustration when these things occur only keeps us from moving towards something greater and more suited to our passion and purpose. Remaining open to the possibilities is key.
There is all this social doctrine that says, that the infinite God, with all his expression, who created every single one of us absolutely different, on purpose, wants everybody to fit into the same suit. — That’s deception. - Lauryn Hill
You think you know what you want to be when you grow up, well, until you grow up. Life is a constant evolution, people grow, people change. It’s natural.
I always felt as though I had to have an answer to the, “What do you wanna do/be” question. No one ever told me that it was okay not to know and I wish they would have. It would have took a lot of pressure off of me trying to figure out right then and there how I would spend the rest of my life. I would have spent more time with myself really figuring out what it is that I am passionate about. I would have spent more time creating a true image of myself instead of the image that society had provided for me.
My major changed from Biology to Communications after my first year at Howard University. I remember telling my mommie and she was excited for me, my dad, not so much. His bragging rights of his baby going to school to be a doctor were gone, and apparently going to school with aspirations to own media just didn’t sound good enough. At the time I wasn’t exactly sure of what I wanted to do, but I was sure of what I didn’t want to do.
At that point I realized that I had to live my life for me, not anyone else. Every person has the opportunity to create their own destiny. Life is supposed to be a pleasurable experience. Enjoy it.
“I used to think that finding the right one was about the man having a list of certain qualities. If he has them, we’d be compatible and happy. Sort of a checkmark system that was a complete failure. But I found out that a healthy relationship isn’t so much about sense of humor or intelligence or attractive. It’s about avoiding partners with harmful traits and personality types. And then it’s about being with a good person. A good person on his own, and a good person with you. Where the space between you feels uncomplicated and happy. A good relationship is where things just work. They work because, whatever the list of qualities, whatever the reason, you happen to be really, really good together.”— Deb Caletti (The Secret Life of Prince Charming)